First exit: Infertility Scarlet Letter vs. School Insurance Board

Squeezing into panty hose, a suit and skirt, was not easy with my quickly changing body as I progress through this much coveted pregnancy....but I took one for the team folks. As I stated in my last blog post, I am exiting Infertility Highway, (click here to read) but am not leaving behind my community of "fertility challenged" friends. I have had a quiet, but not-so-secret, plan of action brewing for some time to propose to the Washoe County School District insurance board that infertility treatment should be covered in our benefits. As a teacher for over 10 years, I spent 7 of those years struggling to conceive. Months of research, information and resource gathering has led me to stand in front of the school board room with 20 or so stoic faces staring back at me. Displayed on the projector was research, and my proposal, while carried in my voice was all the professionalism I could muster. I had to tamp down the urge to scream and stomp my feet or burst into an emotional monologue, but all went well. I was the best presenter I could be at that moment in time. I provided excellent resources and reasons and with the help of many others, supplied a collection of heartfelt letters. These letters told the stories of many other teachers among us who have suffered the pain and financial burden of infertility.

Fact:

• 1/8 people suffer from infertility
• WCSD has ~ 8,000 insured employees
• Infertility is recognized as a medical disease
• Reproduction is considered by law a "Major Life Activity"
• Infertility affects health, physically, socially and emotionally

 The members of the board politely listened, seemingly engaged in the content, asked several questions afterwards....but honestly I have no idea what they were thinking. Zero feedback. I walked out with the Doctor, our very own Dr. Scott Whitten, and thanked him for supporting me, and answering questions. I'm left now wondering if I made a difference, hoping I started a conversation that will continue, and knowing I couldn't have done any more or any better. 

My hopes are that others reading this may find the encouragement to go to their employers as well. We are in an era that is on the cusp of major change. However, that change won't happen without more pushing. There are currently 15 states in the U.S. that require some amount of insurance coverage for this disease. Most other developed countries require coverage. 

In my preparation for this presentation I found many intriguing pieces of information. 

 There are several employers in the Reno area that offer infertility coverage. I tried to confirm these all, but unless I got the information from an employee I couldn't confirm it. Proprietary information I was told. If you have more information about companies that cover treatment, I'd love to hear from you! Please contact me so I can update this list.

1. IGT- unlimited coverage at 100% (confirmed).

2. Microsoft- coverage at 90% (confirmed). 

3. Mars Pet Food- factory outside of Fernley- (unconfirmed)

4. Harley Davidson (unconfirmed)

5. Private insurance through Nevada Health covers Intrauterine inseminations (unconfirmed). 

6. Frito Lay (unconfirmed)

This information is important to me because while trying to conceive I was actively hunting for a new job that either would pay enough in salary for me to afford out-of-pocket expenses, or a company that provides coverage. How sad is that? I was looking at choosing between the job I love, teaching children...and having my own children.

Fortunately, Baby Quest Foundation (Click Here) saved me from that choice.  I hope that the school district can find a way to offer treatment so other teachers experiencing infertility will have options that don't mean leaving the profession. We have enough struggles maintaining an adequate teaching force as it is. 

My challenge to you all is this...Advocate! Go to your employers, put this on their radar. Let's start a new trend, a grassroots, an organic effort for impactful change. We have to stand up for ourselves, and our friends. Infertility can feel shameful and embarrassing, but if it's not us asking for ourselves, then who will? Please share this with anyone you know suffering infertility. 

I wear the scarlet letter "I" on my chest. Wear it with me.

Free Birds: A New Year's Resolution

Silvery threads of steel wove together, connecting at geometrical angles, strengthening the web. It stretched from one wall to the staircase blocking my entrance from the front door into my home. Plotting on a solution my eyes cast left and right, up and down. Creatures were stuck and tangled in the intricate patterns. A bird up high was wrapped in a silk cocoon, lifeless, no chance there. However, I saw several others fluttering, pulling, anxious for help to break free. A duck yanked, using it's bill for leverage. The vile eight legged creatures were strategically crawling upwards, the duck in their sights. I panicked. Grabbing a section of web I lunged and twisted, spiders fell on the hardwood below. My laced tenny's worked with a mind of their own squashing upon sight. I pulled through the silver blockade, freeing birds as their ropes of captivity tore around them.


Strange dreams often leave me considering the implications. Awaking this morning, the first day of a New Year, this dream hanging onto my conscious I reflect on the previous year and what is in store ahead. 2015 was one of the most difficult years I've faced(Click here to read the beginning of our story). Loss, grief, pain, dreams falling apart, a struggle to survive....however, it did end with me breaking through, though some of my hopes were strangled beyond help, others are light on the feathery wings of flying birds.

My resolution is to enjoy those flying birds. I have a baby bird nesting in my womb. We have made it to week 16, into the 2nd trimester, the safety zone. The pregnancy is going well, the wee one flutters around and reassures me. I'm falling in love with Noah, my first born, all over again, as I watch him develop a love for this new baby.
 I'm falling in love with Chris all over again too as I see him working so hard to be the best father and husband he can be. I'm a lucky girl to have two awesome guys in my life who love me. Our new little bird is blessed to have such love waiting for their arrival.

13 week ultrasound photos

I've been seeing on facebook all morning, my friends posting "Happy New Year tributes" with mentions that they hope 2016 is a better year for them. It's a reminder that my year wasn't the only tough one out there. We all have our times of entanglement. My hope for all is that you too will find the strength to free your birds. Let those that have hung in there fly away from their constraints. Get help pulling down the web that has you stuck in the entryway of a new place, a place of comfort, or a new opportunity. You have loved ones that want you to thrive and fly. Here's to 2016, a year of breaking out of snares, tackling goals, and recovering from capture.

Galatians 5:1
It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. 

For the belly fanatics; 16 week belly

"Bird's Eye View"